What are Blended Family Wedding Vows?
Naturally, with the influx in remarriages thousands of weddings are either one or both of the engaged couples' second or third marriage, thereby combining families. Blended family wedding vows are a great way to offer a more creatively cohesive approach to integrating the two families together through marriage. While traditionally, it is common for the couple to recite these vows to each other, under these circumstances including the children from previous relationships is more important. So why not add to the wedding plans and program the exchange of wedding vows from the bride and groom to their newly blended family as well? Including the children in not only the ceremony but in the wedding vows is a great way to start off the existence within a complex family combination. And we know how difficult that is! While it offers tremendous benefits there are few factors when developing your blended family wedding vows that you should consider first. Let's review a few of these factors to get you started!
Benefits of Including Family Members in Your Wedding VowsThe idea of incorporating your newly combined family into the wedding vows alone is creative and unique. And what better way for the bride to make a vow to the groom and his children and vice versa; than to add this moment to the wedding! Talk about a moment to remember! Not to mention, you're making the kids apart of a very special and life changing event, many children have difficulty adjusting too.
Another benefit of blending family vows with your wedding vows is the geniality of the gesture towards the kids. This makes both set of children more at ease with their position in the family unit as opposed to it just being them and their single parent like before. Plus it offers reassurance to the non-custodian and custodian parents their child is in the couples's best interest and accepted equally among the kids. The adulation of the guest and children will be immeasurable hands down! Here are a few tips and tricks to adding this Kodak moment to the wedding program.
How to Blend Family Wedding Vows
- 1. Don't address the vows as questions that require the children to respond. You're more likely to create an embarrassing moment than a treasured one this way! This is especially true, if the kids are having trouble adjusting to the marriage. There's no telling what they may say, so don't give them the opportunity to prove a point or divert the attention from the wedding.
- 2. Never refer to yourself in your vows as the "New" or "Another" mother or father. This can generate animosity among the children not to mention an affront to their other parents. Instead refer to your self as another parent or guardian. This is a more flexible title that's less offensive.
- 3. Keep the wedding vows basic and genuine. Plainly put! Don't try to over do it, stay sincere and eliminate all the melodrama. For example: " To (list the children's name), I vow to be the best parent possible and treat you all with the same kindness, love and protection I give my own, no less and no more"!
- 4. For older children try including them into the wedding precession as well! For example; have the soon to be son-n-law give the bride away and have the soon to be daughter-n-law escort the groom.
- 5. Giving gifts to the children is an ideal way to show your devotion to the newly extended family. Try offering the child (ren) a family unity ring made from silver with their name and the wedding date engraved. For example; the bride presents the rings to the grooms children while reciting her blended family vows and vice versa.
- 6. Offering the children the opportunity to light the unity candle during the wedding vows is an especially touching token! Having special candles engraved with their names and the wedding date can be a great way to get the children involved in the ceremony.